EngagedinthegameDo you want to learn 10 steps on how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast?
How about learning how to get her back in such a way, your chances of getting her is the highest among all other methods online and in how to get your ex back ebooks?
Well if you do, you came to the best place.
In fact, the main purpose of making this Guide was to help you avoid the mistakes I made trying to my ex back.
With this guide, you won’t need to buy an how to get your ex back book, because this is the book.
These proven steps to getting your ex-girlfriend back are so good, it worked every single time women broke up with me or I broke up with her.
I understand how it is trying to get your ex girlfriend back and not knowing why they dumped you.
Also, I know about dumping a women I liked because I thought I was being cool and wishing I never broke up with her.
I also know about cheating on a women you like, her not trusting you and her dumping me.
The truth is men can make mistakes so bad it causes their ex never to want to come back.
In this Guide, I’ll discuss a method that has helped me, my friends, and students get their ex girlfriend back.
Whether you’ve been dumped or initiated the break up with your ex girlfriend, this Guide will work for you.
The first part we’ll adress why women dump men,
The second part will discuss how to get your ex girlfriend back after she dumped you,
and the third part we’ll discuss if you dumped your girlfriend and you wan’t her back.
Including if you cheated on her.
The key to making this work is by following all the rules to the very end. If you can do that, your chances of getting your ex back is highly likely.
Results may vary among you guys and is dependent on how you follow these steps.
PART I: Understanding Why Women Dump Men
Women dump men mainly because of three reasons, the man did to many weak behaviors, the man argued too much, or you cheated.
What I had to learn myself was that women are very vigilant (Pay Close Attention), especially when you’ve been consistent in doing weak behaviors or aruging with her.
When you cheat or break up with a women, a women will lose trust in you.
Especially, when it wasn’t established in your relationship, you can cheat or not.
At first, doing weak behaviors or arguing with her will be able to slide for a while with her but overtime, she’ll begin to start not feeling excited about sex with you.
Once that happens, she’ll either cheat on you or dump you.
When a women dumps you, she sees you in the most unattractive way.
In such a way, she doesn’t want to have sex with you, she broke up with you.
Don’t feel bad we all been through it, I’m just happy you came accross this guide.
AFTER SHE DUMPS YOU:
Since she sees you in the most unattractive way, the worse thing you can do is chase and beg her back.
In fact, if your unattractive to her, stalking her or chasing her, can make her view you as worse as swallowing someone elses vomit.
That’s why if your chasing her by calling repeadly and stalking her, stop, or the time it’ll take to get her back will either take longer or never happen.
Good News About Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back
No matter how much you messed up, you can get your ex back.
Hopefully, you didn’t get a restraining order from staking her.
Otherwise, you’ll be just fine.
The truth is, although she sees you unattractive now, time will from eachother will be what builds attraction back up.
View this break up as time apart for her to miss you enough for her to call you.
Also, taking the right actions leading to the day she calls you will influence whether you get back with you or not.
Which will be discussed through out this Guide.
Below is the 10 steps to getting your ex girlriend back.
Follow these steps on how to get your ex girlfiend back, and you will get her back.
PART II: IF YOU WERE DUMPED BY EX GIRLFRIEND
Now you know that since your ex girlfriend dumped you, it means she sees you in the most unattractive way at this time.
The key to getting your ex girlfriend back is making her view you as attractive again.
Luckily, these 9 steps will do just that.
1. STOP ALL CONTACT WITH YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND
Most of the time when a man is dumped, it’s because he’s doing behaviors that’s lowering her attraction to him.
If you keep contacting her after you broke up and keep asking her to get back with you, the notion that your unattractive and not sex worthy will be true from her perspective.
So take my word, stop all contact with your ex Girlfriend.
I understand this hurts, but what’s worse is you keep calling and you never ever getting her back ever.
In fact, it’s so bad that if you keep chasing her, she’ll no longer see you as a man with a penis that’s how bad it can become with her.
The process of getting your ex girlfriend back doesn’t begin until you stop all contacts with her on the phone and on social media.
Time is what will cause her attraction levels for you to rise.
In fact, time apart will cause her to miss you and reach out one day.
Remember: Don’t post anything about her on social media or communicate with anybody affiliated with her, only unless you have too.
2. Move On And Don’t Look Back
It may be hard to admit but most of the time when a woman dumps us, it’s because of unattractive behavior we did.
After a woman dumps you, you have no choice but to wait until she contacts you again.
The truth is, if you did to many unattractive behaviors, she may never come back.
Some behaviors including Inflicting injuries on her, stalking her multiple times (Showing up at her place without letting her know), or action that leads to getting a restraining order.
If you were a good person, and never did anything horrible to her or over the top, you have nothing to worry about, she’ll call back.
The key is that you don’t want to wait for anybody.
The truth is that women are attracted to men who wouldn’t wait for them.
Yes it’s ironic, we were always taught women want a man who would do anything to get them, but this is far from the truth.
Since she dumped you, the best thing to do is to find something to get involved with while she’s gone like your hobbies and passions.
The greatest thing you can do is go out and talk to new potential sex partners.
You never know if you’ll find someone better than your ex.
If you do that, when she calls, she’ll be able to tell you’ve changed and that now your someone to fight over.
3. Reflect On The Relationship
Now that you’re focused on moving on and not looking back, you should reflect on your relationship.
Ask yourself questions:
Were your ex girlfriend right for you?
Did you become worse or better after being with them?
Did you ex girlfriend bring more bad than good in your life? Or Did she bring more good than bad?
Did you stop doing what attracted her in the first place?
Are you a better person now than you were when you first got with them?
Did stop being the person you were after you got with them?
Did they do anything over the top no worth pursuing?
These questions will help you in dealing with the break up and ask yourself questions that fit you.
Most of the time women break up with men because they stop being the man they were when they met them.
For example, when you met her, you used to go out with your friends regularly , and do you (Hobbies and passions).
But as soon as you got together or later, you stop doing everything that kept her interested in the first place.
4. Improve, Go Out, And Party Hard
What most guys do when they’re ex dumps them is stay home and feel bad for themselves.
Even I did this, when I went through a hard break up, where my ex girlfriend dumped me.
What I learned was the longer you feel sad for yourself, the longer it’ll take to feel real happiness with yourself, ex girlfriend, or any other women.
Improve Yourself:
I don’t think you expected self help from a how to get your ex girlfriend back guide but that’s why this is different.
When your girlfriend broke up with you, you were who you we’re when she dumped you.
How about improving yourself and becoming better than you were than you was when you was with her.
For example, reading books, excercising, or finishing important tasks that’ll improve your future.
The key is, when she broke up with you, you we’re doing something, now your doing something else that’s better and improves your life.
If you expect to get your ex girlfriend back, you must become a little better of a person than you we’re when she left you.
Go Out And Party Hard:
Along with improving yourself, going out not only lets you meet other women you possibly have more in common with than your ex girlfriend, you start to realize, if your ex girlfriend leave you for good, you’ll be alright anyways.
The key is that women dump men because they did something that made them appear unattractive.
When you believe you’ll be alright by actively going out and meeting new women, you develop an non-neediness for my ex girlfriend.
Which will overall make you appear more attractive to your ex when she call.
Non-neediness is something you don’t have to explain, it’s just something you are.
The only way to develop non-neediness is by going out and talking to other women.
Besides, when she contact you, you don’t wont her to realize you been waiting for her sad the whole time.
Women you do this, women look at this as low value and unattractive.
Women want a man who can live with them or without them.
Staying in the house and feeling bad for yourself is not the way.
I understand, you’ll feel sad when you first break up with your ex girlfriend but the truth is like a famous quote for women,
How to get over a man, is by getting under another one.
The same can be true for a man but our way would be:
How to get over a women is by getting on top of another one.
Even you don’t end up having sex with a new women by the time she calls you back, atleast you kept your options open and met new people.
Do whatever you have to do to cry your last cry or get well enough to go out, because the sooner you can improve and go out, the sooner your life will change for better.
5. WHEN SHE CONTACTS YOU
Now that you’ve been going out, meeting new women, and doing you (Hobbies and Passion), your ready for when she contacts you.
When she does contact you via email, text message, social media messenger, or phone call, assume that she wants to see you.
The key is to get straight to the point by just telling her it’s good to hear from her and ask her when she’s free together.
When she does call make sure you make sure a date will happen and then get off the phone.
It’s optimal to have a date at your place or the place you both typically have sex.
Now that the date is set up, do whatever you can to make it as fun as possible.
Make sure the date is set in such a way the sex can easily happen.
Make sure during the date don’t talk about the past, getting back together or anything that will cause the past to come back in mind.
This can destroy the opportunity for sex to happen with her.
The only thing you should be focused on is laughing, and enjoying eachother in such a way sex can easily happen.
Key: Don’t bring up anything serious or exclusive until she does, no matter what.
It must be her idea to get back with you.
Having sex with her will put in her mind you should both be together.
That’s why you shouldn’t worry about relationship titles, she’ll do it.
6. IF SHE DOESN’T AGREE TO THE DATE
If she doesn’t agree to the date, it must mean she’s checking to see how you’re doing and if you changed.
This happens if you did a lot of behaviors that pushed her away and turned her off.
The good thing is that she thought about you enough to call you.
This means, you still have a possibility of getting back with her if you do everything right.
She could be testing you to see if you’ll chase her or do an unattractive behavior again.
The best way to respond to her if she won’t accept a date is by telling her,
In Your Own Words:
“It’s really good hearing from you and I would love to hang out with you. Since you can’t now, how about you give me a call when your available. Right now I have to go do something but I really would like you to call me when you feel its a good time okay. I look forward to hearing from you again,” then get off the phone.…………………
The key to communicating like this is show that you changed and that your not accepting just being friends.
Although, your interested in her, you’re not going to miss out on life and what you have to do.
7. Go Out More And To Become Sharper
She reached out and she’s thinking about you, the worse thing you can do is sit around and wait for her to call you again.
To make sure she knows you change, go out, and talk to other women.
It doesn’t matter if you get get rejected or not, doing it will make you feel good.
When you do this, you begin to embody no neediness and women will start to sense it from you.
If your going out and she calls you, it won’t be coming from a needy place.
When you speak to women in a non needy way that’s authentic, women will gravite to you.
If she succumbs to your non neediness, invite her to your place, have fun without talking about the past, and making easy for sex to happen.
8. WHEN THEY WON’T MAKE THE DATE NO MATTER WHAT
Since they’ll always be reaching out to you first, when they call make sure you make a date with them in a way you both have fun and make sex happen.
If she call you back and still won’t accept a date after asking 2 times, don’t ask her again.
The key is never asking again until the ask to meet up.
If they call you, text you, webcam you, or messages via social media, keep conversation very short.
For example, if they call, say Hi, How are you doing? Then tell them your busy, and you have to go but do call me again.
Would love to chill, so let me know when you’ll be available.
The same can be said for text messages via social media. Keep it short and simple.
Doing this will cause her to wonder about and motivate her to ask you out.
9. Let Her Contact You Only
If your ex is unwilling to meet up with you after the 2nd ask for a date, you must allow her to keep contacting you 100% of the time.
No matter how hard it is, she must be the one making the calls.
The truth is she must realize for herself that she misses you and can’t be without you.
The key is to be consistent and swift about making a date when she calls and get the F*** Off the phone.
Don’t talk about no bs or chit chat as if you were friends.
If you do that, you’ll show her that you’ll accept just being her friends and you’ll remain that way.
That’s why after you ask for a date twice, don’t ask again, and keep conversations short.
The key is to get her to be the one calling so she can realize for herself she wants you in her life.
You calling her will prevent her from realizing she does like you and want you in her life.
Her calling is a confirmation she does want you in her life, so it is optimal to always ask for a date and get off the phone.
PART III. IF YOU DUMPED OR CHEATED ON YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND
10. CALL HER AND APOLOGIZE
If you dumped or cheated on your ex girlfriend, the best thing to do would be to give her a call and apologize.
When you apologize, be honest and tell her, you made a mistake and wish you could take it back.
If you dumped her, tell her you made a mistake of dumping her and that you we’re just confused at the time.
If you cheated on her and she knows, apologize, and tell her how you wish you can take it back.
Also tell her how much you care about her and wish you could meet up for a date.
Make sure the date is set to meet them at your place or their place( Wherever you usually have sex), then have fun in a way that sex can happen easily.
If she’s unwilling to go out on a date with you, you must move on and don’t look back and follow steps 2-7 again.
If she did meet up, you had fun, and had sex, go about your relationship as if nothing happened.
Don’t ever bring up the past or getting back into a relationship only unless she does.
The key to how to get your ex girlfriend back is by giving her space and allowing her to bring up getting back together first.
When you cheat or dump your girlriend, it creates distrust in the relationship.
Understand, it’ll take time for her to trust you again, but it’s possible.
Just give her space to let it go and stay consistent in your action for here on out.
Conclusion:
The main reason why women dump men is because they either did to many weak behaviors, argued with them too much, or cheated.
The worse thing you can do after a women dumps you is chase her because when a women dumps you, she sees you in the most unattractive way.
Furthermore, chasing her, and stalking her, will only make her view you as even less attractive and would be considered weak behaviors.
The more weak behaviors you do such as chasing and stalking can make the time it takes to get back with her, even longer.
If you’ve been dumped the key is letting her bring you back in her life, by first calling you.
After Relationship Has Ended:
So after your relationship has ended, the greatest thing you can do is stop all contacts with her, so the process of getting your ex-girlfriend back can begin.
Remember whatever behavior you were doing to cause you can’t do because you’re not with her.
So within time, some of your behaviors can be forgotten and cause her to miss you enough to call you.
Even if you cheated or broke up with her: call, apologize, ask for a date, and get off the phone.
If she doesn’t accept, let time pass before you call again.
Another great way how to get your ex-girlfriend back is not by staying home and feeling bad for yourself, it’s by going out and moving on.
The crazy thing is that when you move on, that’s when you’re ex-girlfriend will call you and by then you’re not needy or desperate for her back.
You also want to improve yourself, financially, physically, socially, or mentally.
When she calls, she’ll be able to tell you changed and became a better person, even if you don’t say it.
Realize Her calling is a confirmation she does want you in her life, so it is optimal to always ask for a date and get off the phone as soon as possible.
Remember, you can’t have sex over the phone but you can have sex in person.
Within time, she’ll begin to realize what she’s been missing if didn’t accept first ask for a date.
If she says yes, make the date at your place or where ever you usually have sex.
When you meet to laugh, have fun, and make it easy for sex to happen.
After you have sex, act as nothing happens and understand it may take time to gain her trust back.
Whether you cheated, broke up, or got dumped, after you have sex, don’t bring up getting back together.
Let her do it, so it feels like it was an idea, instead of it being like it was your idea.
What if she didn’t accept you ask for a date:
If she doesn’t agree to go on a date with you, keep living life.
At least she cared enough to think about you, meaning there still is a chance for you and her to get back together.
If she calls again, keep it short and simple again, and ask for a date.
If she doesn’t agree, don’t ask again for the date after the second try.
Continue to let her call you 100% of the time, and keep it short and simple.
Over time, you’ll she’ll be compelled to meet up with you.
If this doesn’t work, At least, you went out, met people, and seen other women out there that like you.
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